How Your Motivation and Ability Determine Your Success
When you get down to the bare bones of coaching, you'll notice that a lot of it has to do with understanding behavior and being able to help in changing behavior.
In coaching, this implies understanding the mental maps of why we do things. Complex as it is, human behavior in general is driven by two very important questions:
Do we have the motivation?
If you're not motivated to change, why would you? You're not going to spend that much effort in doing something it's not worth it.
Do we have the ability?
If you don't have the knowledge of how to do something, wouldn't you be set up for failure if you're asked to do it?
If we look deep into ourselves, we'd probably notice all of the little sources of influence that are driving the way we do things and why.
An easy definition of motivation is having a desire to achieve a goal. But we've all set ourselves goals before, haven't we? Sometimes it's not enough to have the desire to achieve a goal and sometimes we don't know what it is, right?
Changing behaviors, will mean searching for the motivation behind why someone does something or not. And these motivations are usually hidden behind years and years of each individual's life experience.
As a coach, listening becomes important because it's the only way to find what's truly behind the behavior. Find the sources that are motivating the behavior and you can start change.
Sometimes no matter how motivated I feel about doing something, I just don't know how to do some things. I may have the motivation to run Microsoft, but I can clearly see I don't have the ability...yet.
I need to learn and acquire those abilities.
When were striving towards goals, being able to achieve them is as important as how motivated we are to go after them.
Think of concert pianists, how many hours upon hours of practice do you think they've had before getting to that point? You may be Mozart, but you still have to learn to play the piano.
A lot of frustration and the resistance to change comes from not being able to change. Not having the ability to change that is.
There's an incessant chatter going on in our minds, and it never stops. Thought after thought, after thought.
Through meditation, you learn to be aware of those thoughts. That is the essence of mindfulness.
In coaching, being mindful means that you devote attention to notice all of the different influence sources, be it of motivation or ability, that affect behavior.
From that place, you can empower others to also notice those sources, giving you the keys to open the doors of successful coaching.
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