Defining Goals - What Do You Really Want?
by Jean-Paul Cortes
You're going on that three month vacation that you've been planning for over a year.
You've been marking off the days on your calendar.
Your dreams take you to the sights, sounds and smells of this special place.
You've been planning every detail, making sure that everything is taken care of.
Nothing is going to get in the way of you getting on that plane.
Your Vacation or Your Life
Planning our vacations is usually easy for us, we have a harder time figuring out what we want to do in life.
When it comes to our lives, we don't ask ourselves many questions about what we really, really want.
We're usually somewhere between Shangri-La and Never Never Land.
We don't put as much time, energy and attention into defining our goals and thus they never turn into reality.
The way you make them real, is by constantly asking yourself questions that clarify your wants and ultimately bring you closer to your ultimate life vision.
You first have to see your target before you hit it.
Hitting a Target
Drying the sweat on your palms, you have the target in your sights -there's no way you're going to let this clown mouth off one more second- he's going in the water.
Your friends are counting on you, none of them were able to dunk that clown.
Everything around you goes silent, your mind is focused, all you can see is the red dot at the center of the target, you take a deep breath, wind up and let the ball fly.
You knew before you let go of the ball, that this time that clown was going to get wet.
You're hoisted up by your friends in celebration of your victory.
Do you believe you would have hit your target with your eyes closed?
Maybe, but not likely.
What's important that you realize though, is that before you even let go of the ball, you had selected something to hit.
You focused your mind, telling it what you wanted to hit and you hit it.
The clearer target you have, the more likely it will be that you'll hit it.
The more you define your goals, the easier it will be for you to achieve them.
The First Step And What To Do Next...
Start by asking yourself the most obvious question of all:
What do you really, really want?
Write it out, carry it around with you, paste it on your bathroom mirror. Make it so you're always reminded this everywhere you go.
What happens then?
As time passes, your goals get clearer, the path opens up to you.
Your words may change over time, but your thoughts will always be focused on what you want. And that makes it incredibly powerful.
Your first answers may be pretty fuzzy, they usually are at the beginning.
Here are some questions to help you bring your goals into focus:
If you could have what you want, just the way you want it, what would that do for you?
What would be the best part about it?
How could you make this goal more specific or measurable?
What would you do, if you were certain that you could not fail?
Can you do it – do you have the ability?
Is it the right time for you to achieve this goal?
Life is what you're living, it's constantly changing, moving along and we all have to deal with that.
At any unexpected turn, things may change. You may change, it's part of life.
Your goals are therefore always subject to change. And that's just fine, it's the way it should be.
Defining what you want is something that you'll work on for the rest of your life.
It's a dynamic process where you'll constantly, define, polish, understand and clarify what you need to do in order to get what you really want.
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