If You're In Your Head, You're Behind Enemy Lines
by Jean-Paul Cortes
(San Jose, Costa Rica)
What Do You Want To Get Done?
"Quick. Move. You're in danger. You only have 5 seconds." You hear a voice in your head. You realize quickly, it's your own.
You half open your eyes. You take your bearings. You have a faint feeling in the pit of your stomach, urging you to listen.
" -Wait, just a couple of seconds more..." Another voice in your head speaks. You hesitate. And in that instant you realize...
Too late. Game over. You snoozed. You lost.
And guess what? You. Yes, you. Have a hand in all of this mess.
What am I talking about?
Have you noticed how hard it is for us to actually do something we don't want to do, and yet know that we have to? There are libraries full of books on procrastination, motivation, time management and the "science" of getting things done.
It's a pretty vicious cycle. The way we get on the hamster wheel and wear ourselves out each day with all sorts of menial tasks that we put in the way of doing what we know we should do.
But. For as much as we're sick of things the way they are, I'll bet dollars to doughnuts that it's much easier, and comfortable, to keep everything the same.
There are two contradicting voices in your head. Can you guess which one wins an argument?
"Well, what is the argument about?" You'll ask. So, now I'm going to ask you: the last time you really "wanted" something, something that required even the minimal effort and commitment from you, and didn't get to it, do you remember what the conversation in your head was?
I can't know exactly what the words were, but I'm willing to step out on a limb and say that you came up with at least one reason why not to do whatever it is that you're thinking of doing. And chances are, that if you listened to yourself, you ended up keeping things the way they are. And did nothing.
You know how pumped up we get when we want something. We come up with plans. Timelines. Reminders. We put on our best game face on and...
...the next morning or in a few days we wonder what happened to all that drive we had just a few days earlier.
We expect massive change, but we're unwilling to even take the second step towards achieving our goals.
The second step? Yes. Perhaps the most important step of all. Because the first we take in our minds. You've already accepted that it usually all starts with something you want. We're pretty good at coming up with an endless list of wants.
But what do we do right after? If we even get through the gauntlet of "good reasons" why not to do something, we usually keep things in our head. And if it stays there it has the average lifespan of a mayfly (perhaps even shorter).
You see, change is sparked by action. If thoughts and ideas are not put into action, immediately, they will tend to fizzle away fairly quickly. Destroyed by a barrage of self-justifying thoughts that want to keep things just the way they are.
So, what do you do? There is hope. But be warned. You may not like it.
Listen to top career and relationship expert and coach Mel Robbins tell you everything she knows about how to get want you want.
Be warned. She doesn't hold back any punches. Robbins cuts to the bone and wastes no time in sweeping through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want.
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