How Leadership Coaching Will Help You Be Your Best

Are You A Great Leader?

Have you ever asked yourself what it takes to be a great leader? Do you believe you have the makings of one?

Develop your leadership skills is probably one of the most important things you can do for yourself. One way or the other you're always going to be met with the challenge of leading people, a situation or yourself.

How can coaching help you be a more effective leader?

Leadership is something that's hard to box in. I don't believe there's one set of traits for every leader out there, styles vary, people are different. We do know something that's certain... leadership can be learned.

You'll find many sites that will teach you leadership abilities from A-Z; there's a handful of them though that can really make a difference in how effective you are. .

There's a little door that leads to an inner chamber of vast resources that we choose to ignore most of the time. Call it your intuition, your sixth sense or your gut feeling, what's inside you is very powerful, you just need to learn how to trust it.

The best results often come from having a clear understanding of yourself; my mentor coach, Paul Litwack often remarked that we should keep it in our minds that "We ARE the most important project we will ever work on."

Self-knowledge is at the root of leadership. A coach will not point out what you need to define yourself as a leader; you are perfectly creative and resourceful enough to find the solution yourself.

What leadership coaching will do, is provide the questions that ask you: What's your unique vision as a leader?

A leadership coach can also help you by moving you into action, holding up the vision you have created for yourself and pushing you to go for it.

Lets Role Play

Being a leader often requires us to take a look at ourselves in the mirror and asking, how can"Josh wants to be coached around his leadership skills. For some reason, he feels, his direct reports are not up to standard. He frequently notices a passive-aggressive attitude from his co-workers, as well as a general lack of motivation and creativity. He thinks "they just don't get it". Although he considers himself a good leader, he can't get to the what he needs to do to change this behavior."

This is an oversimplified example of something that happens often in many companies. You'll find that there's a lot going on if you scratch beneath the surface. Many leaders find themselves lost in trying to understand why others don't see it their way, without giving much thought at how their personalities may be the a big part of the problem.

As a coach, what questions would you ask Josh that would help him with his situation?

Let me share some ideas:

  • What is your vision of a successful result for this? What are you doing differently, that you can change now?
  • How soon do you envision this change happening?
  • Are there any changes that you could make to make to use your strengths more effectively?
  • On an realistic leadership scale of 1-10 where do your peers locate you? What can you do to get to 10?
  • How can you further help your employees with their jobs? How can they help you?
  • What do you do to keep going?
  • What can you do to make a difference?
  • If you make these changes, who else might notice something different about you?
  • What else can you see is working?

Focus on finding solutions, not on the problems and you'll start noticing opportunities for growth. This requires honest curiosity and is a sign of respect towards your peers.

Positive change might be somewhat down the road but it will come, with a trickle at first and then with a gush!

I came up with the following acronym to remind myself of what it takes to be a leader, if you find it helpful feel free to use it:

Take time to look at other perspectives you may find what you're looking for.

Realize that it takes a lot of self-knowledge to be a good leader.

Understand that everyone wants to grow.

Stop and consider how you can make things better.

Temper your mind with awareness and attention.

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