Coach: Here Are Some Ideas To Improve Your Skill As A Life Coach
by Jean-Paul Cortes
A broad life coaching skill set will allow you to better understand
yourself, help others gain insight of themselves and create action much
Remember that coaching is about teaching and helping others and yourself to learn.
The fact of the matter is that we are all life coaches to someone at
some point in our lives, we may not recognize it as such but every one
of us has a unique life experience that can be sought upon to help
someone else move forward.
Of course, there are valuable skills that can help you be a better adviser. Mainly, getting yourself out of the way and allowing people discover their own path.
Here are some ideas:
clear questions and give candid feedback to clarify the situation. Pay
close attention to what is being said and what is not being said. Is the
information being embellished or is something being left out? Notice
body language, facial expressions, movements and tone of voice. To draw
out information use open-ended questions; don't lead, encourage and
empower the person to search for his/her own answer. Learn to listen.
the person identify possible actions by re-framing the situation and
looking for other solutions. Questions such as: How can the situation be
handled? What other options are there? are very powerful to engage
someone to think creatively. Be willing to discuss the problem and the
solutions sought but be mindful of not offering your own opinions. It's a
coach's job to ask questions not answer them.
a plan of action. Set goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable,
Realistic and Timely (S.M.A.R.T). Hold the person accountable to the
plan, this will avoid someone falling into the complacency trap, a
dangerous place to be.
- Offer support. What can you
do to further a person's decision? What resources are available to you
that may help someone with their goals? Follow up in a timely manner.
adaptable. Tailor your approach to each person's needs; everyone of us
is not cut with the same pair of scissors, pay attention the the
inherent differences and each person's values. Our values create a
strong platform to launch us into action.
- Focus on solutions. Avoid getting caught up in fire-fighting, what's the next step and how do we get there?
Create action. Nothing happens without action, uncover the reason
behind what the person really wants and what it's going to take to get
to the goal. Build on existing strengths it will help when faced with
- Pay attention to results. We
tend to slip back into familiar patterns of doing things; this is
normal but does not encourage growth. Acknowledge how far you've gone
and keep on going.
- Use positive affirmations.
Words have a powerful influence in determining successful outcomes,
negative self-talk only hurts and frequently has nothing to do with how
things really are.
- Build on success. You've come
very far in your life, re-trace your memory to past successes and notice
what you did so you can repeat it in your present.
learning. When we lack faith in our life coaching skill set, we
undermine our abilities and talents which is not good; learning new
talents however will augment your confidence and remind you that we all
have individual experiences and expertise that make us valuable.There
are many more tools that you can add to your life coaching skill box and
they're all used for one thing: getting better at what you do. Remember
that we are all coaches to someone at some point in life. It's
important that we learn how we can be the best coaches we can be.
Making It Fun
Learn a new technique and try it out on a friend, I'm sure it will be
helpful both to you and your friend. You might even surprise yourself
and find out if you have what it takes to become a life coach.
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